Co-Sleeping: What You Need to Know

Co-sleeping—there, I said it! If you’re a parent, chances are you’ve either done it or at least considered it. And you know what? It’s okay! In fact, I co-slept with my own baby for 5 months out of necessity, and let me tell you, I totally understand what it’s like. It’s not always the perfect, Pinterest-worthy scenario we dream of, but sometimes it’s what gets you through the night. And that’s what matters, right?

Let’s talk about co-sleeping: what it is, why some parents do it, and how to do it safely. Plus, let’s break down the stigma and normalise co-sleeping—because, honestly, no parent should feel judged for doing what works for them and their baby.

What Is Co-Sleeping?

Co-sleeping is directly sharing a bed space with your little one—whether it’s in your bed or a co-sleeper designed to attach to your bed. Some parents do it to make night feeds easier, others for bonding, and sometimes, it just happens out of sheer exhaustion (no shame in that, trust me!).

Why do parents choose to co-sleep?

• Easier night feeds: If you’re breastfeeding, you don’t have to get up and leave the bed every time your baby needs a feed.

• Bonding: There’s something special about having your baby close during the night, especially in those early months when you’re all figuring things out together.

• Better sleep (for some!): Sometimes, co-sleeping helps your baby sleep longer and more soundly, which means you can sleep too. Win-win!

The Benefits of Co-Sleeping

1. Night Feeds Made Easier
   Let’s face it, those 3 AM feeds can be brutal. Co-sleeping makes it easier to nurse or comfort your baby without having to get up and walk across the room. As a busy parent (and as someone who’s been there), I get how much easier it can make your life during those early months.

2. Promotes Bonding and Attachment
   Co-sleeping creates that lovely closeness. It’s reassuring for both baby and parent to have that skin-to-skin contact, especially in the early days when your baby just wants to feel you close. It can help with attachment, which is super important for emotional development.

3. Better Sleep for Baby and Parents (Yes, Really!)
   It’s true for many families: babies who co-sleep often sleep better and settle more quickly. Plus, if your baby sleeps well, so do you! (Although, I’ll admit, sharing a bed with a baby who kicks you all night might not always be ideal.)

4. It’s Normal, and It Can Be Safe
   I’ve been there—feeling like co-sleeping is something you shouldn’t do. But here’s the thing: it’s okay. There’s a lot of pressure on parents to follow strict sleep guidelines, but if co-sleeping is what works for your family, that’s what matters. You are the expert on your baby.

How to Co-Sleep Safely

While co-sleeping can be wonderful, it’s important to do it safely. I don’t want to sugar-coat it, because there are risks if safety guidelines aren’t followed. But it doesn’t mean co-sleeping is off the table—it just means we need to be mindful.

1. Place Baby on Their Back
   Always place your baby on their back to sleep, whether they’re in your bed or a co-sleeper. This is a huge factor in reducing the risk of SIDS.

2. Use a Safe Sleep Surface
   Make sure the mattress is firm and flat. Avoid soft bedding, pillows, and blankets that could pose a suffocation risk. Your baby should have a safe, clear space to sleep.

3. Avoid Co-Sleeping on Soft Furniture
   No sofas or armchairs for co-sleeping—always on a firm, flat surface like a bed or a co-sleeper. Soft furniture increases the risk of suffocation.

4. Ensure Baby Can’t Fall Off
   Make sure your baby can’t roll off the bed. You can use a bed rail or position the bed against the wall for extra safety. And please, check for any gaps between the mattress and bed frame where your baby could get stuck.

5. Avoid Co-Sleeping if You’re a Heavy Sleeper
   If you’re a deep sleeper, co-sleeping might not be the best option for you. Parents who sleep soundly may unintentionally roll over on their baby, so it’s something to be mindful of.

6. Monitor Temperature
   Keep the room temperature comfortable and not too hot. Overheating is a risk factor for SIDS, so make sure your baby is dressed appropriately for the room temperature.

The Challenges of Co-Sleeping

While there are clear benefits, co-sleeping isn’t for everyone, and there are a few challenges to consider:

1. Disrupted Sleep for Parents
I won’t lie—co-sleeping doesn’t always lead to the best night’s sleep for parents. Babies can wriggle around, and they might wake up more often than you’d like. If your baby moves a lot or kicks in their sleep, it can make for a less restful night.

2. Difficulty Transitioning to Independent Sleep
If you co-sleep for an extended period, your baby may become dependent on your presence to fall asleep. The transition to sleeping independently in a cot or their own room can be a bit tricky. But remember, every baby is different, and the transition doesn’t have to be stressful.

I was able to sleep train my little one and move smoothly from co-sleeping to him sleeping independently in his own room with minimal distress—so it can be done!

3. Impact on Your Relationship
Let’s face it: sharing a bed with your baby can sometimes take a toll on your relationship. I ended up in the spare bed with my little one due to space! It can make it harder for you and your partner to have space or time for yourselves. That’s why it’s important to find a balance that works for everyone.

Is Co-Sleeping Right for You?

Co-sleeping is a personal choice. It’s about what works for your family and your unique circumstances. If it’s helping you and your baby get the rest you need, that’s great! Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty or judged for your choices. Parenting is tough enough without adding extra pressure about the sleep choices you make.

If you decide to co-sleep, be sure to follow the safety guidelines to reduce risks and ensure your baby sleeps comfortably and safely. And if you prefer your baby to sleep in their own space, that’s totally okay too! There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting, especially when it comes to sleep.

Final Thoughts

Co-sleeping is perfectly normal and can be an amazing bonding experience for parents and babies. However, it’s essential to make sure you’re doing it safely and that it works for your family. Whether you co-sleep for a few weeks or a few years, it’s your decision to make—and I’m here to support you no matter what you choose.

(And remember, if you need any guidance or support, I’m here to help!)

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